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Take your time with the belongings of the deceased. do not pressure yourself to “handle things” and do not let anyone else pressure you to “handle things”.
Touch everything you want to touch.
Acknowledge everything you want to acknowledge.
Remember everything you want to remember.
Treat it all with love and respect.
You are not just cleaning out a house, or a closet. You are being given the opportunity to walk through a life. Treat it with respect and love.
One friend of mine has yet to clean out her mother’s clothing and belongings a couple of years after-the-fact. She said she’ll go visit her dad and see a scarf or sweater or something else of her mother’s and take it home with her. She said she can feel her mother’s energy when she wears those things and it’s a little piece of her mother with her.
How beautiful.
Taking home little pieces like that has made the change smoother and a little easier for her.


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The hard-copy of “Do You Still Laugh? Do You Still Sing?” is currently being re-designed for e-book distribution and new hard copy.

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Thanks for your interest – we wish you peace in all of your relationships. ūüôā

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Leave the bedroom and perhaps the desk of the deceased undisturbed for as long as you can.  You can feel their presence among those things for quite a while. 
¬†¬†¬†¬† We invaded Mother’s room probably a little too early.¬† This was brought to my attention by my sister, Theresa.¬† She was right.¬† Mother’s shoes were where she had left them – some clothing, her hairbrush.¬† These things become very precious when you know they are exactly where your loved one left them.
¬†¬†¬†¬† One friend left her husband’s clothes in his closet for almost 2 years, and didn’t move them until for practical reasons, she needed the closet for the way her new life was growing.

My mother, though, while trying to put on a brave face for her children, wanted to begin discarding things after less than 2 weeks. It was clear to me from the tones in her voice and the way her body language and words did not match what I saw on her face, that this was not what she wanted to do. It seemed rather to be what she “thought” she should do to show us her strength and how to carry on.

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When death arrives, do not be too strong.
There are many people who want to do things for you at this time.  Let them.
Let them do every little thing they desire to do.
And ask for assistance.
Ask for assistance with every little thing you have to do.
     I asked a long-time family friend to ride with me to the health-food store very late one night and she was pleased to do it.  It seems like such a simple thing Рride with me to the store Рbut we had time to talk privately in a way prior circumstances had never allowed. 
¬†¬†¬†¬† Across the room, while sitting at the dining room table, a friend heard me say I wanted a soda, and “poof”, seconds later it was by my side.¬† (See?¬† A little piece of heaven.)

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“It is 1999 and both of my parents have passed away.¬† And there is nothing special about this.”¬†¬†¬†
In 1999, I wrote a book called “Do You Still Laugh?¬† Do You Still Sing?¬† Words and ways to ease your heart when a parent dies”¬†¬† It¬†is a collection of letters that I wrote to my mother shortly after she died from a quick and unexpected illness.¬†¬† “I wrote” the letters is sort of an inaccurate statement.¬† The letters wrote themselves through me, and I just provided the pen and paper.¬† It was an extraordinary creative experience that changed my understanding of life, creativity, art and expression.

I’ll be publishing excerpts of the book here on this blog, along with audio excerpts as I have time to complete them.¬† If this blog gives you comfort after the passing of your parents, I am glad.¬† Please pass it on to others who may¬†need it.¬† Just search the¬†CATEGORIES to the right¬†and you’ll find the things that are relevant to you.

In 1999, we¬†published “Do You Still Laugh, Do You Still Sing” and sold a few copies in bookstores in Dallas, Texas, online and at various speaking events.¬† Then, I let it rest.¬† The hardcopy of the book will be available again soon.¬† ¬†Keep checking back for blog published excerpts and news on the hardcopy.¬† Peace to you, my friends.

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